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(In the movies, the term bunny boiler is linked to stalking, not accepting and targeting. No processing with self-awareness and emotional maturity. Cunning doesn't mean high EQ. Simply put, the person struggles with not being able to see the conclusion after abuse due to their own delusional biases.)

"Why does everyone make me out to be the badguy" A Red Flag, watch for the shame dump, smear campaign.

"Extreme cognitive distortions and rigid unconscious defence mechanisms change a person’s perception of an experience. Paramount distortions and defences are typically employed by a person with a narcissistic personality disorder; both alter reality in order to make it more palpable for a fragile ego."

There are various charities that can help offer insight into the insidious nature behind closed doors that is in contrast to a public presentation. You can speak to an advisor, then 101, or 999. In the US 911.

Denial, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. (The abuser abuses, claims to be the victim, blames the victim, and most play catch-up. Why does this happen?

Follow the links for advice on highly deceptive, confusing behaviour that harms others at any expense. Even if third parties are being influenced is classed as psychological abuse in the second instance; they may not know that, but if they harm on behalf of the perpetrator, they are now the perpetrator also. The core perpetrator knows this, which is why they create a third-party influence to keep hiding using emotional strings. It is the sme behaovier repeated... just less obvious to low-emotional people who can't think for themselves.

"One of the most frightening prospects for a narcissist is being forced to live without someone to blame for their problems.

They often react by "hoovering" up all the happiness, positivity, and optimism that the other partner may be experiencing, making growth harder.

It's important not to engage when a narcissist employs the hoovering technique so as not to get trapped in a toxic or abusive relationship."

Watch for - "A red herring is a distraction tactic in which an unrelated topic is introduced to steer the conversation away from the real issue at hand. This technique is used to discombobulate the opposition and to, once again, make it impossible to hold the person accountable for their actions."

A key note to consider before taking on the insight of numerous professionals in the links and videos - Stalking, why it happens and what to do.

Stalking appears when a person has lost control over a false narrative along with harmful internal issues linked to hidden deep insecurities and a lack of stably, hence the coercive or controling actions i nthe first place. Victims do not stalk, manipualte child or adults for personal gain, victimhood will. A coverup from a highly decdtiv person will be done with forms or blameshift, deflection, unable to process feedback, seeing it as fear of exposure, bring all the issues that where never processed, to the forefront of what could break their facade, agenda, public presnation that can be seen as a mask, layer over the fragile ego and hidden past that would bring a huge amount of shame if exposed. Fear of exposure appears when simply challenging with truth and fact, as it pulls the perpetrator out of the reality distortion they live inside. The child's mind can be very much present and not in a positive connection from child-teenager to adult histrol perception fully connected to the adult is a genuine adult matching with thier face age. Look for automated pointing, the body giving away the childs reposnce, redirecting, smear, counter-narrative.

It is all evidence that you are dealing with someone who presents a falsehood with a cognitive bias, with the assumption they can say or do anything without guidance, rules, cause and effect and most of all, anything to avoid accountability. Always refer with a professional, truth bias may not aid a real victim when dealing with a deceptive person who will go to great lengths not to process at the core level. Life is in the grey, but what can be clear without using absolutes. Boundaries create huge problems for coercive controlling people trying to hide psychological abuse, so consider a simple guide and review to map out some - Motive will do one pathway, empathy will, over time, do another, in a genuine organic approach. Repeat offenders? 42% 12 months later.

It is not just what is said and done at different times, but also what is not said and done at certain times. The simple and the complex do join up when removing the gaslighting effects. There is your intro and for education purposes only, but if help is needed, you dont want a book with blank pages that you fill out, get some education and insight fast, some are far from the same opoint on the empathy spectrum, even what is called a dark empath, it's only some cognitive empathy, no effective empathy... and used incorrectly to mantie others, the motive will always shine through with the chosen actions to create damage control... the obvious giveaway is they are creating more damage with the same cogative bias... more of the same. One of the issues with going No Contact with older manipulators is that they have had practice. Saying that, stalking and controlling issues in retired couples are equally as toxic, and older generations suffer from not being heard, reached and maybe in a situation where covert abuse is more active. Look out for everyone in all age groups, older abusers still give away the signs by getting it wrong when withholding, gatekeeping and gaslighting, the lack of guidance or lack of interest in learning, changing and growing will be for a reason not seen at first, while all the other behaviours match up. It's not a generational thing. The old manipotor simple has been caught yet and was once a young manipulator. How is it known? Look at their childhood.

It might not be seen at first due to conditions and slow erosion, so prioritise your mental and physical health. An important note: Psychological abuse and stalking can be seen in the statements and actions, plus in the health of others too close to a manipulative person with a toxic bias. A cluster of actions, questionable opinions, victimhood and the core issues they try to hide. The really dangerous types have learnt to hide. Doubling down is a lot of misdirection to cover up something, not nothing. (That statement is repeated for those just finding their feet after tolerating any kind of psychological harm, however subtle.)

If you are exhausted, think why, check your background processing and gut instinct. Map out events and timing of actions to spot where you are playing catch-up. No one stalks for no reason at all.

The context of a text/gift/card/letter posted can look innocent on the surface; the subtext can be the exact opposite for the victim. The more toxic, the more it will try and hide to erode with a biased need to create conformity and pull a person back in with a different kind of familiarity when the abuse cycle turns to charming and distraction. Feels like a contrasting Mind Games? Red Flag. Will everyone see it at first? No.

More of the Same = Same behaviour used criminally, will be used to cover up, two red flags, predictable patterns of behaviour, just who repeat offending is 42% 12 months later.

Denial = Truth and Fact is suppressed to go with a false narrative and reality distortions, doubling down is the second red flag for coercive control, it excuses itself.

Stalking = More of the same, psychological abuse displayed in Life Invasion actions, the second giveaway of high levels of abuse coverup, never know when to stop as the facade is paramount, the effect shows someone is trying to destabilise for a reason, not 'no' reason. The secondary evidence will match up with the primary evidence. Red flag those who think nothing of stalking, as it is an everyday action. 100% detachment. Life Invasion is a crime, and those who are guided don't even go there.

Doubling Down = Losing grip on the facade that tries to cover up truth and fact, a crack in the false narrative.

D.A.R.V.O. = Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender = The lowest form of psychological abuse, going so low to impersarte a victim, blame a target/victim to cover tracks. Speaking up triggers a dangerous abuser to act at any expense. History will note, it is at everyone else expsen, look for harm networks and changes, someone has a toxic maniptive hidden, passive-aggressive, string-pulling disorder. Prep, make an exit plan, and note everything.

Dupers Delight = Hidden elation from deceiving others, assuming one is special, above others, controlling the perception of others with two opposing situations, control issues that delude the mind that assumes they can't be seen. The body gives it away.

Smear & Gossip = A toxic counter-narrative to redirect the problem elsewhere. Later, hovering and love-bombing will appear, totally in contrast to psychological abuse and coercive control, a way for trying to creat and avoidance narrative, gaslighting to push past as if nothing had happened. The actions show what is happening internally in the abuser's mind; they try it externally, processing without accountability with another detached tactic.

Highly Deceptive Victimhood = A dark and studied action. Victims do not stalk or manipulate; they are wired differently, and each situation will have a different reaction. Knowing the different between deceptive victimhood and a victim's actions may require training or an external education, the actions to cover up will surface in the secondary evidence after Fear of Exposure has been triggered.

Fear of Exposure = Any means necessary to cover up. Abuse by Proxy is a form of containment while passively aggressively trying to hide. It won't be just one action that triggers a loss of toxic control; it will be everything, except a reaction that will create a point of no return, but Love Bombing and Hovering will be used to appear as innocent, to why No Contact is employed. The detachment exposes itself. Two angles of psychological abuse will link back, what for baiting after speaking up, linked to D.A.R.V.O. Using the victim for a second time to hide from toxic and abusive actions that were assumed to be normalised, no matter what. None of the actions is acceptable; document all actions and statements, as they will link back further than first expected.

NO Contact = Two reasons: Heal and see beyond deceptive actions, second, No Contact offers further evidence from a safe distance. Boundaries and parameters should not be abused and should not continue to be abused. Life Invasion shows further evidence of control issues to hide at any expense, people being objects no matter who they are.

Projection = A damaged perception that keeps removing the manative person of the actions that harm others, like a child pointing away and saying 'it was them.' A mind game, it can also show what stage of development the mantior is stuck at if they do certain actions. Some are hard-wired at a level of detachment that will never change; avoid trying to see if there is hope. Adults and children are like objects.

Detached Low Emotional Intellect Influencers = Flying monkeys, third party, abuse by proxy. The action clearly shows premated and control issues, a need to harm further with detachment, covering, baiting, low emotional intelligence, is refewrencing some4one who can't think for themselves, may have a need to hide, and is incapable of seeing they are being used to be a perpetrator. More evidence that a person wants to cover tracks and continues to gaslight more than one person. You may find the core perpetrator love bombing and hovering in contrast to the third-party by proxy approach. All done on purpose, mind games.

Malignant Narcissists vs Malignant Psychopaths = True or False: Psychopaths feel less alone when they get others to do the same as them. True or False: Both will keep going after all flying monkeys have given up. True or False: Stalking is performed by both Malignant Narcissists and Malignant Psychopaths. One uses others (abuse by proxy) more than the other due to gaining dupers delight, and the other wants personal gratification close up. Depending on the actions will give away which is which, as one wants to stay hidden at all costs, the other wants the status.

Coercive Control is a crime in the UK; it will be done more than once, the perpetrator will cover tracks under the radar, chip, poke, triangulation, psychological abuse, smear with fear of exposure, continue to harm a victim, break up familes netowrks or work environments. Uncovering coercive requires goes beyond observing charm and deflection. They will bait to make other look like they are the cause, blame-shifting to keep the heat away.

Stalking direct or indirect? Major red flag. It is call tracking. It is the same mindset, assuming they can be in other peoples live even after NO Contact. Research economic abuse, with old generations, LPA abuse is unfortunately common. At the same time, denial and gaslighting. Observing lowering other when they are not in the room, it will be the same for you or the people you love or care for. If a seminar campaign is in place, it is further evidence. In the UK, it is a crime. Are these the actions of a malignant narcissist? Psychopathy with narcissism? Do the research, and it will always be under the radar.

Divide and Conquer is a distraction while someone is being targeted for knowing a truth and fact or an attempt to coverup abuse, emerging abuse or coercive control. Loving Bombing, Hoovering, lowering or raising with an agenda to harm other peoples netowrks and relations due to hidden deep insecurity and a hidden type of jealously related to toxic compassion. Once documents, the core perpetrator will expose themsvles whe nthe realstion distion cannon ber mantained and cracks in the facade become too big to handle, and triangulation happens. Idolise one, devalue the other. Allow one to do anything, use the other for a purpose.

Observe if their has been ACEs (adverse childhood experiences, approx 60% repeat the cycle, 40% can grow stronger, wiser, gain the right tools for life). It can be that the child's mind is still very active, looking at a doll's house with a fixed mindset that still appears in adulthood. Very insidious due to the hidden internal processing for seeing adults and children as objects. Needing validation with manipulative techniques, charming, lying and gatekeeping. Not a fully grown, balanced person behind the public presentation.

Make sure you are not assuming the malicious person is only narcissistic; if you get it wrong and they are psychopathic, they will be stimulated by all kinds of attention and harm. Regardless, the brain functions differently. Observes if they enjoy people being hurt, crying or dynamically affected. The giveaway is that children are used as objects beyond boundaries and parameters. A mental health professional and an investing department can draw evidence to create a case. Observe high levels of detachment.

When investigating and interviewing, or gathering evidence of harmful, toxic opinions and actions, consider the PEACE interview approach. Most insidious actions are covert, passive-aggressive, under the radar, but malicious Cluster B creates generic patterns through their own bias self sapbasing by going too far. Research Low EQ perceptions as the core perpetrator will unfortunately hire Low EQ people as operatives to spy or abuse on their behalf under influence when fearing exposure, receiving feedback for psychological abuse, losing control of a toxic, coercive, controlling narrative behind a public facade. You may spot an inactive amayala and little to zero empathy, its give away that a guided person would never go there in the first place.

After researching, come back to this question, see if you can link up if a manipuative person has a cowardly mindeset so the practice covering tracks rather than focusing on accountblity: True or False - Abusers will always try and cover up abuse of any kind, never seeing, feeling or understanding through an internal detachment due to an insecure need for dominance becuase the hidden deep insecurity they can never addressed, it is a lifelong issue.

James may return to advising on one-to-one or business conflicts. Projects to reach a wider audience will be considered in the future.

Do look at all the YouTube channels and websites offered by experienced and professional people listed here. They aim to broaden insight into the full spectrum of human behaviour.

Consider going back to the question, is the answer True or False?

Third-party Insight, for educational purposes only. Small handbook with numerous links and videos researched to help anyone requiring a broader perception for those who can hide in plain sight. The Bibliography is at the bottom of the page. A laptop or desktop is recommended.

James is not offering full-time counselling or investigation services right now. He can offer links to third-party insight (professional and experience with insight) and free notes for you to research in your own time, for educational purposes only. The notes are for specific malicious detached behaviour that continues at other peoples expence, by any means necessary. Morally bankrupt, malignant empathy deficit actions and a harmful lack of self-awareness. With regard to ASPD (anti-social personality disorder), diagnose the actions, not the person, for example.

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